You’re Got Lael Episode 32: Reframing Adolescence with Kirsten Cobabe

Adolescence. What a challenging time!

I know I'm not alone when I say I would never want to go back to my teen years. Despite having some amazing experiences, I was an emotional mess.

Parenting adolescents is challenging, too! It can bring out the best and worst in us as parents.

I keep seeing how my unhealed wounds are activated when my kids move through the developmental phase in which those wounds originated. I see how easy it is for me to project my experiences onto them - if I'm not paying attention.

Parenting is not for the faint of heart. In order to avoid (or minimize) passing our shit on to our kids, it's crucial that we be emotionally aware and engaged in our own healing.

It also feels important to start reframing adolescence - not as something to tolerate or survive - but as a beautiful opportunity for disrupting outdated patterns in ourselves, our families, and society.

My guest today absolutely adores adolescents. She gets them in ways others don't. She has the uncanny ability to translate teenage behavior to well-meaning parents.

Kirsten Cobabe is a former therapist, now a teen and family coach, who has helped countless adolescents and their families understand each other more and build connection and hope.

I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did!

A little about Kirsten:
Kirsten has worked with families for over twenty years, supporting parents and young people to navigate the waves of adolescence by becoming authentically curious and truly present.

During her time as a social worker, she was coined the Teen Whisperer. Her ability to meet young people where they are and invite parents into this world offers a new space for connection; a modern lens of radical acceptance.

Kirsten guides families into an empowered, joyful and connected life during some of the most transformative years. She has coached countless parents and caregivers, guiding them toward a recalibrating and strengthening of their relationship with their teens.

While recognizing the unique struggles of this generation, Kirsten also sees the need to nourish the creative force behind each person she is fortunate to encounter.

As we raise our consciousness, we can raise the next generation.


You can connect with Kirsten on Instagram at @kirstencobabe or by visiting her websites:

The Grown-Up's Guide to Teenage Humans: How to Decode Their Behavior, Develop Unshakable Trust, and Raise a Respectable Adult by Josh Shipp
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel J Siegel, MD
How To Talk So Teens Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber & Eileen Mazlish
Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood by Lisa Damour, PhD
The Book You Wish Your Parents Had (And Your Children Will Be Glad You Did) by Philippa Perry
The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist's Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults By Frances E. Jensen and Amy Ellis Nutt

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